Is that even a thing? Well it is now. Competition can be healthy, and it’s necessary in today’s world, but sometimes it gets associated with adjectives like bad, negative, harmful and aggressive. I think we all know what competition is, it’s the activity or condition of competing. And an example of being mindful is: a truly considerate person, always mindful of the needs of others.
I’d like to reflect on this idea about being mindfully competitive. There are a few questions to ask yourself as you compete; are you living your own values and morals, are you genuinely happy for others or do you feel jealousy and bad about yourself when someone else succeeds? It takes maturity and mindfulness to be all three: competitive, successful AND a good person. What good is competition and success if you’re hurting others to get what you want, constantly comparing yourself to others or wishing things were different? These thought patterns are all too common and sometimes encouraged by society, but are they working. If we reframe competition and are mindful when doing it, competition can be healthy, encouraging and positive. We can then be proud of ourselves AND happy for others, without the guilt and envy.
Competition can apply to knowledge too. For example, when someone has the knowledge, the answers, or good advice and keeps it to themselves so they can be the best or the expert, it’s disappointing and all wrong. You become the expert and the best at what you do when you share your knowledge and ideas with others. If people shared more (like we’re taught when we’re kids), were more open with their thoughts and feelings and truly strived to make each other better, then we all might be better off.
Why not try and be mindfully competitive in your daily life? Everyone deserves to feel supported and given a pat on the back once in a while. Even if I don’t know you personally, this is my way of giving you a pat on the back; I hope you’ll pay it forward.
Oh, and don’t forget the always appropriate high five! Remember to continue being awesome.