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I’m sure by now you have heard this song, Blame it on the Night, by Calvin Harris. If not, no worries, you’ll still be able to pick up on the overall concept of this blog post. The song tells the story of a man who feels guilty about cheating on his partner, but is not willing to accept responsibility for his actions. Later, he apologizes and says that he’ll “be better” in the future.
So what’s the meaning behind the song and this concept of guilt? Guilt is one of the hardest feelings to live with, because you’re the reason you and the people you care about are hurting. You hurt them. How do you get rid of that hurt? How do you heal guilt? This song, Blame, walks a fine line between honesty – actually owning up, accepting responsibility for the pain inflicted and the harm done – and excuses. The end result is all too human – don’t blame it on me.
The song goes on to say, This ain’t a feelin’ I can keep…meaning, no one can carry around a lifetime’s worth of guilt. The question is how do you get rid of it? And how do you avoid it in the first place? Why is it so hard to forgive? And why is it so hard to own up to our own faults?
To help answer these questions, we should start by acknowledging that we blame because it’s easy. It’s easy to point the finger and fault someone else. It takes courage and maturity to own up to our own faults and mistakes. People who focus their attention on blame are not being mindful. They are not being honest with themselves. They’re insecure and scared.
Let’s lighten the mood a bit and put this concept into practice. I feel guilty when I eat a block of cheese, but instead of harboring guilt and blame, I have learned to acknowledge the fact that I did something wrong (over-consumption), accept it, and go on with my life. 🙂
It’s time we look in the mirror and stop hurting others. I think if we’re mindful of accepting responsibility for our actions, thoughts and feelings, we will be able to live a life of acceptance instead of a life of guilt.
Sources: Bustle and MusicInsideU