Why do we avoid, hide, ignore, and brush hurt and disappointment under the rug? Ignoring our feelings, emotions and unsatisfactory situations is a form of protection, but it’s also a form of destruction to oneself. Avoiding is a short-term band-aid that makes us feel good at the time but hinders and hurts us in the long run.
Hence this concept of avoiding avoidance, why not look fear, sadness, and uncertainty in the face and feel those feelings with all your heart. We don’t always do this because it’s scary and makes us feel vulnerable. But that is okay. It’s okay to acknowledge things that make us sad or uncomfortable, tough situations and disappointment.
Avoidance is the opposite of mindfulness. Someone who practices mindfulness acknowledges feelings and situations for what they are, eliminates all judgment, and lets themselves feel alive and human. We don’t always have to be the strongest person in the room, the happiest person at the party, the smartest person at work, we just have to be ourselves and take one moment and day at a time.
Let life happen. Release control. Feel your feelings. Avoid avoidance.