I was out to dinner the other night and we struck up a conversation about how you don’t really know what someone is going through (or how you’d react) until you’re in the same situation. I know people out there feel the same way, but sometimes instead of understanding and showing compassion for others, we spend time gossiping, judging and criticizing. It got me thinking about this concept of judgment and this idea that, “Every new concept first comes to the mind in a judgment(Charles Sanders Peirce).”
There is no such thing as too kind. An open mind creates an open heart. Those unhappy with themselves or who like to constantly judge may disagree with these statements. People judge because they are misinformed, not listening, not trying to understand and reflecting their own insecurities. Wayne Dyer once said, “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” I agree with his observation. Look for the good in people and situations. Be mindful to listen carefully when someone is talking and sharing with you. You might just learn something new.
“Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.” (Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist)
Are you creating the life you truly want to live, or are you trying to keep up with others and let society control your decisions? Mass thinking, consumption, opinions and judgments will always exist, but you have the choice to create your own opinions and follow your own path. Critical thinking skills are available to all of us if we just slow down, listen carefully and process information without any judgment. Listen more. Talk less. Practice acceptance. Know that change is inevitable. It is okay to disagree, although, I encourage you not lose sight of respect,gratitude and mindfulness when you do.
“The world is full of a lot of fear and a lot of negativity, and a lot of judgment. I just think people need to start shifting into joy and happiness. As corny as it sounds, we need to make a shift.” (Ellen DeGeneres)