All too often we compare ourselves to others, benchmark our accomplishments against the competition, compete with our neighbors, and sometimes, unfortunately, even friends and loved ones. Why? What good does it do us? If anything it makes us unhappy and generates feelings of anguish and resentment. I challenge you to stop comparing yourself to others and start doing what you think will make you happy.
So what if the person next to you is smarter, richer or has more stuff? Instead of feeling dumb, learn from them, instead of wanting to be richer, show gratitude for what you have and instead of desiring more stuff, connect with old friends and the people you love. I guarantee you that worrying about others and what they have will not make you happy and will not get you any closer to your own goals.
Love yourself and remember that you’re in control creating your own path. There is no right way, there is no only way, there is your way. What screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be.
Franklin Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” He’s right. Buddha once said, “Do not dwell on the past. Do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” He’s right too, life is happening now. I agree with both of them. I hope you choose freedom, joy and kindness and leave negativity behind.
Don’t compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to the person from yesterday. Be happy with what you have while working for what you want.