Not My Problem. Not My Responsibility. The mindset of most of us when we’re tired, stressed out, overwhelmed and disconnected from the present moment. How many times have you heard these words in your life? Unfortunately, probably one too many. We think that because something doesn’t really have a direct impact on us that we shouldn’t try to help solve the problem. But this way of thinking causes teams, businesses, relationships and communities to fall apart. We’re seeing it now in the news. We see too many people not taking responsibility and allowing unacceptable events to happen.
A lot of people pick on the younger generations, but I see their potential. I see them caring, showing passion, standing up for what they believe in and being open to new people, cultures and experiences. We’re so divided in everything we do that it makes it hard to stand together when we need it the most. We’re constantly dividing each other apart by age, status, race, intelligence, it goes on and on. The separating and ranking really never ends. This fosters a culture of competition and entitlement.
Are some of us so far removed from reality and so brainwashed by the mainstream media that we’re failing to connect with each other as human beings. As people with real feelings who are looking for encouragement and support from their fellow humans? It really boggles my mind when I think about it. I realize there are a lot of factors that play into our norms, opinions and stereotypes, but what good does it do? It only feeds envy, anger, violence and negative emotions. And what is to blame? The ego.
According to experts, the ego is an identity of our own construction, an identity which is false. If we take all the beliefs of what we are – beliefs about our personality, talents, and abilities – we have the structure of our ego. These talents, abilities and aspects of our personality will be attributes of our skills, but the mental construct of our “self” is artificial. And while this description might make the ego seem like a static thing, it is not. Rather, it is an active and dynamic part of our personalities, playing an immense role in creating emotional drama in our lives.
We have spent years building our ego self-images, living inside of them, and reinforcing them. Extracting our genuine self out of this matrix of false beliefs will take more than a few days, but it’s worth the effort. Mindfulness helps us accomplish this goal. Rumi, one of the most widely read poets in America, once said, “Kill the cow of your ego as quickly as you can, so that your inner spirit can come to light, and attain true awareness.” It’s bizarre to think that most of the time we are living life in a false sense of self with a clouded awareness. The ego is just like a dust in the eyes, without clearing the dust you can’t see anything clearly, so clear the ego and see the world.