Live the life that’s right for you, not the life that’s right for everyone else. Only then will you be free from self-doubt and negativity. Say it with me, I am free to be ME!
Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to everyone else and what they want. It’s found when you stop living for other people and their opinions and start being true to yourself. You’re the only person in charge of your life. The only question is: What do you want to do with the rest of it? Businessman and philanthropist W. Clement Stone once said, “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.”
Life isn’t perfect but it sure is great. Our goal shouldn’t be to create a perfect life, but to live an imperfect life in great astonishment. This means getting up every morning and taking on the world in a way that takes nothing for granted. It means that you start to see everything as extraordinary. Each day is a gift. Never treat life casually. To be spiritual in any way is to be amazed in every way. Be mindful, and be joyful. It’s okay to have down days, but it’s important to let go and be at peace with the reality of life’s ups and downs. You’ll soon find and accept that life’s ups require life’s downs.
Happiness is simply the result of one’s thinking. Happiness starts with you – not with your relationships, not with your job, not with your money, but with YOU. It’s not always easy to find happiness in ourselves, but it’s always impossible to find it elsewhere. Regardless of the situation you face, your attitude is your choice. You simply can’t have a positive life with a negative attitude. When negativity controls your thoughts, it limits your behavior, actions and opportunities. If you realized how powerful your thoughts were, I bet you’d try your best to never think another negative thought again.
If you want to be successful you must remember that attitude is as equally important as ability. If you want to be a good person you must remember that character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you. These are important lessons that are often overlooked, simplified or taken too lightly. The people who live life to the fullest and make the most out of each day are those who truly see the beauty in everything and those who see the joy through the sadness.
When you live in the present moment with an open mind you are able to quickly validate your emotions and see the light in any situation. When you remove the drama and charge forward with love and gratitude there’s nothing you’ll not be able to handle. You can either wallow in your own sorrow or embrace life’s ups and downs and keep your head up. Train your mind to see the good in every situation and you won’t be caught off guard when things don’t go as planned. Strive to inspire people and be the reason they don’t give up. A positive attitude will lead to positive outcomes. I really believe that the difference between a good day and a bad day is attitude. And one thing that can quickly change a good attitude is change.
Change is inevitable, that’s a fact. So, if we know it’s always going to happen, why is it still very difficult to accept? It’s difficult even when we know there are rewards and positive gains waiting for us on the other side. People who handle change well don’t try and fight it, they accept it and charge forward.
If you’re not being challenged you aren’t changing, growing or bettering yourself. It takes a lot of small, mindful steps and patience to make progress and move in the direction you’d like to go. It’s about doing more than just existing and leaving things up to chance. Max De Pree, American businessman and writer, once said, “We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are.” We can’t change our past, but we can take action in the present. We can make mindful efforts to practice and build up our confidence until we really believe we’re strong enough to accept change, or make a change.
We take chances and face change all the time, whether it’s in our personal lives, our work, our relationships, fitness goals, the list goes on and on. The word change seems like a simple word with a simple meaning, but really it’s constant chaos. That’s why we must find ways to work within it and accept that things will not stay the same.
Every new day that we’re granted is a chance to learn and grow. When life changes to be harder, change yourself to be stronger. The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance (Alan Watts, Philosopher).”
I’ve always taken life pretty seriously, but am (slowly) learning to lighten up a bit, and can say with confidence, that I love this new-found freedom that comes from letting go. It takes courage and strength to really embrace the ideas that: it’s okay to make mistakes, we learn from experience, and perfection applies to math problems, not real life.
I want to leave you with a lesson I learned from Bruno Mars’ song, Uptown Funk. In the song he sings the lyrics, “Smoother Than A Fresh Jar Of Skippy.” This phrase made me laugh when I heard it. I thought to myself, who doesn’t want to be smoother than a fresh jar of Skippy!? Cause I sure do!
My definition of smooth is having emotional intelligence, a good attitude, accepting change and being able to laugh at myself. It means making time for things that matter to me and spending time doing things that make me happy. What’s your definition of smooth, what does being smooth look like for you?
If you haven’t already started, I challenge you to turn up the volume in your own life. Smile. Relax. Dance. Let loose. And if nothing else, be smooth.
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