Girl On Fire

Girl On Fire is a song by Alicia Keys, and I love it! Keys wrote a letter to her fans explaining what the song means, it’s quite inspiring and fits well within the theme of my blog, so thought I’d share.


In Keys’ letter to her fans, she writes, “Girl On Fire is about new beginnings, new perspectives and fresh starts. It’s about finding your own inner strength and channeling it in a way you’ve never tried before. To be “on fire” is to allow yourself the freedom to take full control of who you are and how you want to live your life. To live your passion and shine your light unabashedly!! It’s that moment you choose to claim your power and be extraordinary! With this album, I hope to empower you in the way you have me… I hope to move you to be your own phenomenal self in life. Thank you for your tremendous support throughout my career and for being a part of my journey as an artist. I’m so proud to share Girl On Fire with you all. I can’t contain the flame!!!! Never contain yours!!!”

This song is awesome in so many ways. The lyrics encourage you to love yourself the way you are and let your unique light shine bright. The message conveys that strength and courage come from the inside and the only person who can create your own happiness is you. When you ground yourself in your beliefs and charge forward with confidence you become unstoppable, no matter what the hardship.


Keys states, “To be “on fire” is to allow yourself the freedom to take full control of who you are and how you want to live your life.” Don’t let others sway your decisions, opinions, goals and dreams. Stay true to who you are and whoever wants to support you in that journey will be by your side. Your passion is your light and taking control of your life is your freedom. Don’t ever let anyone take that away from you.

To empower means to make (someone) stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights. I hope I can help do that for you the way Keys did that for her audience. Thinking about and taking care of “me” first is not selfish. Loving yourself gives you strength and endurance to reach your goals, take new risks, grow relationships and take care of others.

If nothing else, don’t ever let anyone ever dull your sparkle. Check it out for yourself. I hope you become as inspired as I did by the music.

Music Video.


She’s just a girl and she’s on fire
Hotter than a fantasy, lonely like a highway
She’s living in a world and it’s on fire
Filled with catastrophe, but she knows she can fly away

Ohhhh oh oh oh oh
She got both feet on the ground
And she’s burning it down
Ohhhh oh oh oh oh
She got her head in the clouds
And she’s not backing down

This girl is on fire…
This girl is on fire…
She’s walking on fire…
This girl is on fire…

Looks like a girl, but she’s a flame
So bright, she can burn your eyes
Better look the other way
You can try but you’ll never forget her name
She’s on top of the world
Hottest of the hottest girls say

Ohhhh oh oh oh
We got our feet on the ground
And we’re burning it down
Ohhhh oh oh oh oh
Got our head in the clouds
And we’re not coming down

This girl is on fire…
This girl is on fire…
She’s walking on fire…
This girl is on fire…

Everybody stares, as she goes by
‘Cause they can see the flame that’s in her eyes
Watch her when she’s lighting up the night
Nobody knows that she’s a lonely girl
And it’s a lonely world
But she gon’ let it burn, baby, burn, baby

This girl is on fire…
This girl is on fire…
She’s walking on fire…
This girl is on fire…
Oh, oh, oh, oh ohhhhh oh oh oh ohhh oh oh oh ohhhh…
She’s just a girl and she’s on fire


The Beatles – Let It Be


I arrived home from work and was cleaning up a few things when I suddenly found myself humming lyrics to a song, the song was Let It Be by The Beatles. I soon realized that these lyrics were bringing me some comfort in the present moment. I stopped and thought, what about this song is so special to me? I realized that it was the words and the message that I found intriguing. Everyone knows the song, but I bet not everyone takes the time to learn the meaning behind the words.

I decided I wanted to be mindful of this experience and take time to research the life lesson behind the lyrics. I found some interesting information around how the song came to be that I’d like to share with you.

McCartney: “One night during this tense time I had a dream I saw my mum, who’d been dead…

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Keep Calm And Break It Down


I’m guilty of it too, sometimes I just don’t want to deal with it, or I get overwhelmed by something and push it aside and pretend like it didn’t happen. Sometimes we see things and instead of speaking up we think, not my problem. We say we want to eat healthy and exercise more, but then we order dessert and sleep in and miss our workout class. Of course, we all need a break once in a while, but more often than not we just simply aren’t giving our full attention to what it is we’re trying to accomplish.

When we break down our goals and tasks into smaller steps they become easier to manage and it becomes easier to achieve our objectives. It really is more of a day by day, moment by moment process. Our minds trick us into thinking we need to focus on everything all at…

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I Have Doubts


If I’ll reach the personal, career and life goals I’ve set for myself. I have doubts if I’ll be able to keep up with my daily exercise and healthy eating. I have doubts if I’ll perform to the best of my ability most of my days here on Earth. I have doubts if I’ll be able to keep my cool and be mindful when I get frustrated and upset when things don’t go my way.

But, you know what? One thing I don’t doubt, is that life will be unpredictable, always changing and always interesting, for better or for worse. This I do accept and am okay with, if I’m mindful. I try to continually practice using my wise mind versus my emotional mind when dealing with life’s challenges.

I’ve recently started to truly believe that your mindset and thoughts are really what can take you to the next level, give you…

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Even When I Lose I’m Winning


John Legend is a smart man, why? His lyrics in his song All of Me are genius and mindful all at the same time. The specific lyrics that caught my attention are, “Even When I Lose I’m Winning.” This is philosophy communicated through music, but what does it all mean?

Losing is impossible because anytime he loses she wins and when she wins she’s happy and that makes him happy. All egos are set aside for perfection, “No matter how bad you feel, no matter what you’re going through, I will be there for you always. I will support you and nothing can change how I feel about you. You are beautiful in my eyes in every single way.”

Think about how much joy the practice of always winning can bring to one’s life, when the only two choices are between winning and learning, not winning and losing. Sometimes things…

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Mindfulness For Modern Life


Welcome to 2015, or should I say, life in the fast lane. We live in a world of instant gratification, instant information and learning stuff about people, places and things that we never imagined possible. I think a lot of us would agree that it’s tough these days to keep up with the pace of modern life. Technology is continually invented to save us time, but ironically we use that time to just do more things. Then soon enough we again have no free time and end up rushing through the days even faster. There’s a lot to be gained when we slow down and live in the moment but it’s not always easy. So how do we adjust to both thrive and survive in the chaos of modern day life? My answer suggests mindfulness and turning off and tuning in, even if it’s for a few minutes a day.

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Mindful Communication: Talk that Promotes Your Happiness and that of Others


By Dr. John Mark Froiland

I originally became interested in researching inspirational and autonomy supportive communication because it has a powerful potential to help children love learning, reduce anxiety and depression, increase motivation to help others and increase happiness (Froiland, 2014; Froiland, 2011; Froiland, 2015). Inspirational communication entails conveying warmth, using parables or analogies to help someone see learning or healthy behaviors in a new way, explaining your passion for a healthy habit and many other science-based components (see Froiland, 2014 for all 22 Inspirational Motivational Style techniques).

Recently when I was presenting at a symposium in Philadelphia about this type of research, an audience member asked if I think parents are becoming happier themselves when communicating this way. My answer to this astute question was essentially, “Yes, but it’s time to do more intervention research on this topic.” Usually, research on autonomy supportive communication focuses on how it helps students, patients…

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What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger


Even if you’re not a fan, it’s true that Kelly Clarkson sends a powerful message with her song, Stronger.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone
What doesn’t kill you makes a fire
Put that thing on lighter
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
Just me, myself and I

Strength is an interesting concept. I think there’s a myth that being strong means something went wrong or that something bad occurred, which in turn equates a negative association with this idea of strength. While this may be true, strength is also a gift and it’s okay when you have to use this gift. Being strong in the face of adversity is something to celebrate.

I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection.
-Leonardo da Vinci


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What Keeps You Up At Night


I’m sure you’ve heard this once or twice in your life. I both like and dislike this question. Why? Because it forces your mind to go right to the negative, the bad, the stressful and the worry. Maybe we should start asking the question what are you doing well and what could be improved upon? What makes you happy and what puts you to sleep at night? What are you grateful for? Why do you care, what is your passion? See when we re-frame the question we still get to the root of the problem and find a solution, but we do so in a more positive and optimistic way.

Millions of Americans suffer from sleep deprivation and are simply overworked. Why create more drama, stress and negativity? We all have enough on our minds and our plates as it is, it’s time we start celebrating the successes, encouraging each…

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What Are You Feeding Your Mind?

mindbodyBeware of Mental Junk Food–You Are What You Eat
Article Written by Clinical psychologist Cheryl Fraser, Ph.D is a writer, speaker and meditation teacher (

The other day I gave in to a junk food craving. After a day of clean eating—kale smoothies, quinoa vegetarian chili, fresh fruit—a little voice said “come on, you know you want to” and I was seduced. Before I knew it I was munching on balsamic and pepper kettle chips and nuclear-orange cheesies. The next morning I woke up feeling bloated and unpleasant. Hmm, no kidding. Like my Granny often said, “Garbage in, garbage out.”
spiral-lightSo how does my lapse in compassionate eating relate to mindfulness? Well, for both mind and body, you are what you eat. What we consume mentally influences how the mind feels—pleasant and happy or roiling with indigestion. Imagine you are facing a difficult work problem. If you focus on unpleasant “what-if” scenarios, anxiety arises. If you dwell instead on possible solves for the difficult issue, you feel calm and empowered. We all want to be happy. We all want emotional and mental well-being. But are we practicing conscious mental consumption?

Try it right now. Think for a moment about what you are feeding your mind right now. Are you worrying about a future event? Chewing on a bone of contention from the past? Watching a celebrity gossip show? Perhaps you are watching an iridescent juvenile hummingbird feed on the newly opened purple iris in your back yard. Maybe you are musing about what to have for lunch. Once you have brought awareness to what the mind is currently munching on, gently notice how your mind is reacting. Is your current mind-snack wholesome or unwholesome? Continue reading the full article at Beware of Mental Junk Food–You Are What You Eat.